God knows who you really are, does your spouse?

In Psalms 138:1 we are powerfully reminded how God knows our inner being more than anyone else. "O Lord, you have searched me and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise. you perceive my thoughts from afar.  You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways.  Before a word is on my tongue you, Lord, know it completely."

In the journey of marriage, it is essential to bring our authentic selves into the relationship. Yet, do we truly do this?  Do we actually open up about the aspects of ourselves that shine as well as those we find challenging?  God's intimate knowledge of our inner being calls us to embrace both vulnerability and honesty with our spouses.  I invite you to reflect and think about any aspects of your character that you are still hiding from your spouse.  Being authentic with your spouse will not only deepen your connection but also, with God's help, those areas of your life you find challenging will start to ease up as you grow to trust your spouse.

I urge you to take a moment to reflect on any parts of your character that you might be holding back from your partner. Being genuine with each other not only enhances your connection but, with God’s grace, can also help you overcome any difficulties you face. Embrace this opportunity to grow together!

Broken Beautiful

The other day there was an issue that came up and for some reason I remembered this famous mother goose poem. 

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,

Humpty Dumpty had a great fall;

All the king's horses and all the king's men

Couldn't put Humpty together again.

As men we bear the responsibility to make our wives feel that we are their security. Security and trust in a relationship are the glue that holds everything together. 

What happens when we fail and fall? 

As men, we try not to hurt our spouses by saying little lies that we believe will have no consequences, but that is so far from the truth.  Our words have repercussion and just like the little rhyme says they couldn’t put humpty back together again. I know what you’re thinking, it’s a little extreme, but understand that once that trust is shattered you might put it back together but it will never be the same as before. 

So, I challenge you to be mindful when tempted to speak a little white lie. A simple lie can steal the security of your wife.   Many long marriages have cracks but they continue in perfect imperfection because there is a belief that together they can handle what ever the issue is.  It’s in the cracks that we can look back and admire the marriages that have weathered the storms. 

My brothers and sisters in Christ, renew your mind every day and cherish what God has given to you, especially your spouse. 

Humpty couldn’t be put back together by all the king’s men, but we know it’s the King of Kings that we serve, and no matter how broken we are, HE can put it back together for his purpose again. 

“This righteousness is given through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference between Jew and Gentile, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.

Romans 3:22-23 NIV