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Stop Normalizing Toxic Behavior
Ephesians 6:11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.
All of us have memories of watching family or friends in a relationship and witnessing how they attempted to kill each other at one point or another while calling this type of behavior love. Some of these stories serve as good gossip here and there during family gatherings; when you look at the big picture, these families have normalized toxic behavior in front of their children. This type of example then becomes the norm for them, and the cycle continues because that is what they saw modeled in front of them and, to some degree, becomes normal behavior.
Changing relationship dynamics as you grow spiritually is tough and takes a whole lot of time and a whole lot of discipline. It's easier to focus on the pain and challenges than to keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, especially because Satan is crawling around looking for an open door into your life in an attempt to continue to rob your peace. His game is always the same: find you without your armor and attack to keep you from breaking a generational curse. He has got plenty to keep you busy with, if you let him!
Remember, you must hate the sin, not the sinner. The first step to keep the enemy at bay is taking his power away, letting him know that you are aware that it is him you are fighting and not your spouse. These battles are won together as ONE! Join forces with your spouse, sit, and have these difficult talks ahead of time. It is a matter of having a plan of action to identify the attack and commanding the enemy to flee because he has no power.
Riches are in the niches, Invest in your marriage
I heard the phrase "Riches are in the niches," and it spoke to me in a way that made me go down the rabbit hole of deep thought. I searched and came across this definition of niche: “Any small, specialized market”. If you think about it, our lives have so many different markets: from a spouse to a job and to our children.
Each of us compartmentalizes our daily activities so much that we create niches. So, are the riches truly in the niches? Yes, if you invest in the right niche. I believe the place you will get the greatest return on your time is investing in your marriage. I honestly believe God ordained a specific way we are to treat our spouses. I also believe that by modeling a peaceful and loving family that you create a mold for your children to follow for generations to come.
It’s the little things that don’t cost anything like the undivided attention you give them and taping into your imagination and creativity to create memories. Do practical things each day to make your spouse and your children happy. Take the time out of your crazy day and send a text to say I love you or better yet a simple phone call to hear their voice.
Have date nights with your spouse! Go try new restaurants, go to the movies or a comedy show. Go dancing or volunteer, all these activities bring you closer to align a purposeful marriage.
Be creative! Turn a dog walk into a picnic. Turn errands into an ice cream stop. Surprise your spouse with lunch. Attention to your spouse in even the smallest things creates memories and feelings that are hard to forget, especially when you have bumps in the road, which every marriage does.
If you make a mistake, own it and take responsibility by saying “I’m sorry” but not an I’m sorry to end the argument but one of truly feeling the otherperson'sn side. Your marriage is your richest niche. Make sure to pray and meditate daily on all the blessings The Lord has given to you but especially for the partner The Lord has granted you.
Holding hands through the storms
Now do me a favor, Can you close your eyes and picture yourself at eighty years old sitting on a park bench holding hands with your spouse? Hold that image for a few seconds, take a few deep breaths as your seal it in your memory. Let the image give you peace, feel love and appreciation, let that image sink deep Inside your soul and save it there.
Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.” He reminds us in Mark 10:9 For when the storms of life seem overwhelming,thinkk of the peace you felt when you recorded the image deep inside your soul. The enemy will sway you left and right, over and over again through the years, he will try to make you think you are sinking ,but if you are grounded on the word of God, No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper says Isaiah 54:17
According to Peter we are to be “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:” 1 Peter 5:8 You must make Jesus number one in your life and remember that image of the two of you holding hands after a lifetime of memories.
You may think, How will that image sustain me? When you make God your anchor, you are sustained by declaring Jesus is your Lord and Savior, because he says in Romans 8:2,8 “we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
Continue to hold hands through the storms of life, declare the blood of Jesus over your lives with God always at the center, seek Him every day, and in the end, you will bring that beautiful image to life.
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The right now life
Can you say, "I have maximized every moment with the people I love?" The definition of maximize is to increase as much as possible. Let that sink in!
The right now life doesn't mean changing everything you are doing by quitting your job and moving to Europe and starting your dream life. What it means is, take every moment as a life experience and apply that as the foundation for the voyage of your dreams while never forgetting that the most important moments come from your family.
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Glory to God!
I have heard the phrase "Glory to God" many a times and just now it made me question what does that really mean to us? I believe when you say "All Glory to God" you mean "I couldn’t do this great thing without his consent, I am just a servant who comes to show his magnificent power over this situation".
You see, when an actor gets an Oscar or Grammy, when an athlete wins the Super Bowl or the World Series you hear "I want to thank God" The thing is when you hear that statement you should really be hearing The Lord make a bold statement of His power. All credit goes to him by His will and power.
Can you and I say, "I give glory to God for my marriage"? That what He brought you together was to show His glory on earth by bringing two different individuals into a binding contract with Him to create life, to be the generational curse-breakers and the servants for His glory for future generations.
Whatever you do, giving glory to God is realizing He made you for a purpose. Show your spouse that you are here to serve your family, friends, and community.
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Who do you say that I am
Who do you say I am
Am I the genie in the bottle that you rub so that your wishes come true?
Who do you say I am
Am I the only one you call when there’s a problem?
Am I the one you pray to reminding me you do good deeds, knowing that you want glory from men.
Who do you say I am?
I am who you need me to be; I am that I am.
I am the beginning and the end, the Alpha and the Omega. The one who listens when you cry, the one who calls on you to change your direction and your outlook for you to take a step back and change your perspective. I am also the one who listens and the one who gives and takes.
Slow down and enjoy life
In the world of today everything is about speed and convenience.
Timing is not our timing. Sometimes patience is truly a virtue in today's society of our fast-paced living. Time seems to equate to money but never living our life. We trade our time for money but not for God. I believe each of us was bought at a price with certain gifts to give to the world. It's those gifts that we should use to help others. By mentoring and volunteering our time we can become angels and messengers of God on this earth to spread the gospel of Jesus. It is through slowing down and realizing life's too short to run your race at someone else's speed.
Tip for couples:
Find opportunities to come together as one in sharing your talents. Volunteer at a food bank or homeless shelter. Talk about the experience of helping others on your journey of being a messenger for Christ.
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He covers me
I cover him
We cover each other
God cover us both
Celebrate your weaknesses, for each day in Him, you are strong. Let your testimony be a story of victory.
John 10:10 I came that they may have life and may have it more abundantly. ... But I came to give life—life that is full and good. ... I have come so that you might have life—life in all its fullness.
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Love, Live, Laugh!
John F. Kennedy said "Do not ask what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country", Lets change that up and put that in a kingdom perspective. Do not ask what God can do for you, but what you can do for God.
The heart of a servant is what He needs, to hear your inner Spirit step out in faith and be the angel on this earth. The Gospel is the good news that God gave His son so that we may be cleansed by His bold sacrifice.
Have you ever been in a situation where your heart was tugging to do something, but you turned away? Don't miss your opportunity to be God's helper. A lot of people say that God never speaks to them, but I believe He does. When you hear a wordor a song or a song that touches you, take a moment to ask God your father, What do you want from me, and how do I serve you?
Be purposeful in doing and do not be afraid, for He calls you to be His messenger not only by what you say but by being a living example of His word. Mercy, grace, and forgiveness are difficult for anyone. We are measured by the measurements we measure otothersIn other words, forgive, and we will be forgiven. Luke 6:37
Live, love, and laugh! Take a moment every day and find inspiration in one thing each day. If you change your view, you change your heart, and in tturnchangees your environment.
Live, love, and laugh.
Live to love, love to laugh.
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Who do you serve?
In this day in age, its easy to call yourself a believer, that by accepting Jesus you are transformed, that you are filled with the Holy Spirit. Yet, many continue to do the same thing as before.
As a believer and follower, we are called to be His servants, yet we continue to serve a worldly God. So I ask, who do you serve? Do you serve the God of lies? Do you serve the God of money? Do you serve a God of selfishness?
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God speaks!
I woke up one day, and as I as laying there I started to see visions of things. The first was an arm, so I said "I know I just had a shoulder operation". "God why am I seeing this"? Then I saw two arms picking something up again I asked God "why am i seeing this"? Then I saw two legs running. Then a set of eyes and ears. Then a mouth and at the end a heart.
I asked God, "What do all these body parts mean"? My heart moved as He whispered to my soul, "The first arm was you trying alone to pick something up. The next was two arms that were working together picking something up and that represents the helper I have sent you, your wife. The set of eyes and ears represents both you and your wife hearing and seeing the word together. The mouth represents the word that both of you are spreading. The fruit of the mouth, speaking in unison. The heart is where your souls are, coming together as one united in seeking God".
All these parts of the body were created for working together for one purpose, to further His Kingdom through the unity of Marriage.
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My Vase
In this day in age, its easy to call yourself a believer, that by accepting Jesus you are transformed, that you are filled with the Holy Spirit. Yet, many of us continue to do the same thing as before.
Finding our treasure!
How about if daily you decided to take an inventory of your deeds, to make sure you do good because when you go home to your eternal life you want to make sure you are rewarded, You don’t wanna look around and think "had I only did this or that on Earth I would have earned that and that in Heaven", be led by that feeling of pleasing The Lord in all your ways versus impressing man so that you can hear Well done, good and faithful servant, You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master's happiness!" Matthew 25:21.
Heaven is real! Jesus died for us to live eternally, that is so crazy, still to this day we can awe in the ultimate sacrifice, a sacrifice that easily goes unnoticed as we live each day. A sacrifice that we don’t deserve, a sacrifice that will guarantee us free entry through heavenly gates some day.
Wow, Wow, Wow. Can you just imagine the magnitude of what that means? People will mock us, will put us down and will talk about us because we know something they don’t know yet. We found the ultimate treasure and It has the name of Jesus.
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The God we serve!
We serve a mountain-moving God.
A God that walks through the valley of darkness with us.
A God who provides all of our needs.
A God that closes the doors that need to be closed and opens those that need to be opened.
A God that removes people from our life meant to harm us and replaces them with ones to be a blessing.
An all-knowing God that even when we go down the wrong path, He makes our way straight.
A God that is there guarding us and protecting us every step of the way.
A God that knows we are sinners.
A God that knows we are not perfect.
A God that knows our heart and along with all the impurities in it and His love for us is never ending.
We serve a God whose grace is sufficient for us each day of our lives!
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New normal?
Be the one who joins the movement of love, hope, and kindness instead of the one spreading fear of the unknown. While we don't know what three, six, or twelve months will look like down the road, know one thing: if you opened your eyes this morning, you have purpose and another shot at resetting your mindset from fear to faith.
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Who is the pilot of your plane?
Is our life an illusion? The unsaved believe that if you do more good than bad, when you die, if the good outweighs the bad, then you get into where?
To some Christians, the illusion is that by saying some words, we are saved, yet the bible says, “You have faith, I have deeds.” Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds. James 2:18
I keep having this dream about getting on a plane. So I sat down and tried to analyze it and I started thinking a plane represents me being in control. I pick the destination, I pay, I take my seat, and I am on my way. If you have ever been on a plane, you know you start off by waiting to board, then your row gets called, you walk towards the entrance, upon entering you meet the captain and the stewardesses, and they guide you to the seat. Make sure not to block the aisle so the next person behind you can keep going. That is a typical boarding process, correct?
My dream had Jesus welcoming me as I boarded, imagine if Jesus was the pilot of your plane! Do you honestly think you are going where you planned? Unless you are a pilot, the average person has to trust the captain of the plane to get to their destination safely and on time. Imagine if you put your complete trust in Jesus to fly your plane. Imagine the places He would take you!
Anybody who has ever traveled can tell you at least one story of turbulence, so know and beencouragede, that if Jesus is flying your plane, you are going to go through turbulence in life. It might be a little bumpy, or it might be the type of turbulence that has you praying the whole way.
So, are you sure you are willing to be in the plane if Jesus is piloting?
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Do I believe what I say I believe
During breakfast with a group of girlfriends, one happened to share her experience during a Hawaii missile attack notice sent by accident, and as she told the story, one thing she said spoke to me. She explained that during that time where some people were panicking across the island she said to herself “Okay Lord, If I believe what I say I believe” as she realized the attack could actually be true and its time to take cover as instructed, she joked that she heard a lady ask a group “are you ready to meet you maker?” We all laughed and continued chatting, not taking lightly the seriousness of what people experienced, but I kept thinking to myself, Wow, that was deep; that really spoke to me. "Okay, Lord, if I believe what I say I believe.”
Lord, If I believe what I say I believe then as I lay my head down I will be at peace knowing that you will make my path straight “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” It Says in Proverbs 3:5-6
Lord, If I believe what I say I believe, then I don't need to worry about tomorrow because your words say, “So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:31-33
Lord, If I believe what I say I believe then I should not be afraid of my enemies because in Isaiah 54:17 you say “no weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and this is their vindication from me,” declares the Lord.”
Loif, if I believe what I say I believe, then when I feel like I am not good enough, you say in Eph 2:10, “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”
Lord, If I believe what I say I believe when I start to feel anxiety as I wake up in the morning with so much to get done and realizing I dont have the resources, you say “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:6-7
Lord, if I believe what I say I believe, then when I feel unqualified for your blessings, your forgiveness, and your love because of all my sins as I fail you every day you remind me of Eph 2:8, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God.”
Reflection:
Lord, now I say, when the struggles and storms of life sway me left and right, I choose to believe in your promises for my life!